If you have a teenage daughter, who comes with complications, as they sometimes do, this is for you.
I just want to encourage you to hang in there. Here's something I learned in the classroom: It was suggested, when I was a teacher, that there are times when we just don't need to continue the conversation with a student.
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So, for example, when a student is arguing about why she has to do or learn something and what value it is, remember -- it takes two to argue, so maybe silence will save your sanity and deescalate the situation --- eventually. You can simply say something like, "I understand your frustration." And only that. The statement is true and very empathetic. Each time she presents a question or argument in an effort to stall, delay, or avoid doing what she has to do, then she can no longer use you to help her stonewall her responsibilities. And you no longer have to work at having the right answer that will make her go, "Oh, thanks, Mom! I never thought of it that way before. Now I can see more clearly, and I'll get right to the task at hand!"
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Might help. Might not.
